Mother’s Day: As Told by a Motherless & Childless 45 Year Old Woman

Mother’s Day is always filled with such mixed feelings… I long for the mother I lost when I was 29. I long for the type of relationship that she and I never had. I long for the fact that she never got to see me happy. I long for never finding the right person to […]

To My Future Partner:

I’m genuinely happy. I love the life that I’ve built with intention. And yes, I’m single. I’ve been single for most of the last 12 years, with 3 short relationships (all under 2 years). Prior to that, I was in a relationhip for 16 years. I learn from my past, and have come lightyears and […]

Emotional compost for the holidays

Being asked how my Christmas was, is the equivalent of when I was a kid and friends would ask me what I got for presents. Having to think of something to say, but make light of it, gets old. When I was a kid, I had to make things up because some Christmas’ I didn’t […]

All the things I did wrong as a dog parent…

Let’s face it, we can all do better as parents, whether it’s human kids or four legged companions. I hadn’t had a dog since I was a young kid, and my 16 year relationship with a narcissistic, spoiled douche didn’t allow me to have a dog. He hated dogs. Luckily he liked cats, albeit only […]

Seven years….

I wake up to the sound of birds on a Saturday morning. I stretch my entire body. You know that morning stretch that’s almost as good as a morning orgasm? Yeah that one. The shades are still closed, but I can tell it’s a beautiful summer day in Maine. I love this state. So many […]

Celebrating freedom….

Today marks 6 years of my freedom. On May 17th, 2013, I closed on another house. This was my second home I’ve purchased, but this time was much different. This one was completely on my own. My first home was purchased in 2006 with my boyfriend at the time. A long time. The relationship lasted […]

Dating…Categorized…

Ok, time to get real about dating. Whether it’s online dating, meeting men in the wild (shoutout to Girls Gotta Eat), or however else you meet people. Anyone who has dated in today’s world has more than likely experienced what I’m about to write about. Same shit, different toilet. Now please don’t get all butt […]

Two years of Peach, Love, & Happiness

January 21st marks 2 years since I adopted my girl, Peach. I know it’s cliche, but those 2 years went by so incredibly fast. A lot has happened since then, with both myself and Peach. I’m really a first time dog mom. I had a few black labs as a very little girl, but this […]

Mid-Life Crisis In My 30’s

After being a prisoner in a relationship spanning close to 2 decades, I shouldn’t be that surprised that I had my mid-life crisis a bit earlier than most. After I left my ex, I had bought another house on my own, and a few months later, started dating for the first time since High School. […]

I survived another year….

Yup. Tomorrow I turn 39 years old. I’m not sure what significance that has on anything, to be honest. But every year that passes, I tend to reflect on whatever got me here. When I think back on my entire life, it’s in chapters (how cliche!). Childhood, teenage years, then it’s simply pre-relationship and post-relationship. […]